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Whether you're making sense of something difficult or simply curious about your inner world, you're welcome to explore all my articles on trauma, anxiety, relationships, self-compassion, grief and emotional wellbeing. Take your time and begin wherever you like.
When Intensity Feels Like Chemistry
Why can intense attraction feel like love? Dr Tammy explores attachment wounds, limerence and moving towards safer, steadier relationships.
What Most People Call Anxiety Is Often Shame
Explore how shame can sit beneath anxiety, the patterns it creates and how therapy can address shame alongside physical symptoms of anxiety.
What to Expect From Your First Session
A gentle guide to your first therapy session with Dr Tammy, including preparation, privacy, what you can share, session length, in-person and online appointments.
What to Expect From Trauma Therapy
What can you expect from trauma therapy? Dr Tammy explains safety and stabilisation, processing memories, the therapeutic relationship, session length and endings.
Who Did You Go To When You Were Upset? Childhood Emotional Neglect and Why Self-Soothing Feels So Hard
Shut down, feel numb or can’t calm yourself when emotions run high? How childhood emotional neglect and missing co-regulation shape self-soothing, and how healing begins.
Just Because You Stopped Crying Doesn’t Mean You Felt Soothed or Okay: Emotional Numbness and Dissociation in Childhood
Go blank in conflict, feel numb or live on autopilot? How dissociation can develop when no one helped you with big feelings as a child, and how to build a safer relationship with emotions.
When Survival Becomes a Way of Life: Childhood Trauma, Anxiety, Depression and Burnout
Why so many capable, high-achieving people feel exhausted, anxious or low without knowing why, and how unacknowledged childhood trauma keeps the nervous system in survival mode.
Not All Perfectionism Leads to High Achievement: Shame, Avoidance and How Healing Begins
Not all perfectionism leads to high achievement. How shame and the inner critic can turn perfectionism into procrastination and avoidance, and what healing involves.
When Food Became Comfort: Childhood Trauma, Shame and Our Relationship With Food
Why some people cope with childhood abuse, neglect and shame through food, and why healing means understanding the story beneath the behaviour.
“What Do I Actually Feel?” Getting to Know Yourself Has a Lot to Do With Understanding Your Feelings and Emotions
Struggle to know what you feel, want or need? How childhood shapes emotional literacy, and gentle ways to start recognising your emotions and getting to know yourself.
When Nobody Took the Time to Truly Know You: Emotionally Absent Parents and Your Sense of Self
Raised and provided for, but never truly known? How emotionally absent parents can leave a quiet wound to your sense of self, and how healing can begin with curiosity.
“I Just Want to Be Happy”: Why Burnout and Trauma Recovery Starts With Safety and Capacity, Not Necessarily Happiness
Exhausted, overwhelmed and judging yourself for not coping? Why burnout and trauma recovery often starts with safety and capacity, not happiness, plus a simple battery check-in.
When Anxiety Shows Up in Your Body: What It Might Be Telling You
A racing heart, tense shoulders or a knot in your stomach? Understand why anxiety feels physical and explore gentle ways to respond.
What Is EMDR Therapy? A Gentle Guide to How It Works
Curious about EMDR therapy? Learn what it involves, why it is used for trauma and what the eight phases can look like.
When Your Inner Critic Gets Loud: A Guide to Self-Compassion
If you're kinder to others than yourself, explore self-compassion, the inner critic and small ways to respond with more understanding.
Why Childhood Patterns Can Follow Us Into Adult Relationships
Why do familiar relationship patterns keep returning? Explore schemas, childhood experiences and how therapy can help you understand them.
5 Signs Therapy Could Help, Even When Life Looks Fine
You might be coping on the outside but carrying a lot inside. Here are five signs that therapy could offer useful space for understanding.
Grief Is Not a Straight Line: Making Sense of Loss at Your Own Pace
Grief can change from hour to hour. Explore why loss looks different for everyone and gentle ways to find support when you need it.
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